Both experiences paralysed me, because I felt that they were taking away what really defines me, who I am, my joy of life, my freedom.

The pain of endometriosis, a series of failed medical treatments, with side effects and consequences  the constant struggle exhausted me, sometimes bedridden, but when it didn't, I existed only at the bare minimum. I was practically a vegetarian, waiting to see when the illness would again make holidays, travel, activities, work, lovers' meetings impossible. 

After the car accident, I didn't dare to get in a car for a long time, let alone drive. I did buy a car, but poor thing, it was just for show, sometimes I'd tell myself I couldn't be such a loser, get in, start the engine... then I'd turn it off and just cry, and I'd feel that choking feeling in my chest again, and see the windscreen bursting, and hear the sharp snap of the brakes screeching. 

In both situations, I felt like a battered, wounded bird who wanted to fly, but had its wings clipped and was still mutilated and caged, just in case. In the first I felt my aching, always aching body as a prison, in the second I felt that without the ability to drive, the doors were closing on me, the walls were closing in on me, and my constricted life became the prison I had locked myself in. 

I wanted my freedom back. 

After long months, years of persistent trying, I realized that I was running from doctor to doctor, from surgery to surgery, from therapy to therapy, waiting for help, solutions, hope, none of these are the fight that someone else will fight for me. 

When you go through hell, you go through hell alone. No one can go there with you, no one can go through your hell for you. 

If you have endometriosis, you are alone with your most painful pain, and even if you have someone who wants to, they can't live it for you. 

If you're terrified of driving, there's no one to sit on your lap and keep your hand on the gearshift from now on. You're in that seat, alone. 

For me, these two paralysing, scary and lonely experiences were finally able to inspire me, and after many years of learning and experience, I found my strength and freedom, and even more.

I have been practicing as a psychologist for 14 years, with over 25,000 hours of consulting experience  help those who are experiencing difficulties like the ones described above. 

People who want to be free in their bodies, in their cars, in their lives. My goal is for you not to have to go it alone, for me to go with you to the point where a person can go, and even a step beyond.

I want you to take those few steps where you really have to go it alone, with all my knowledge, all my experience, and equipped with the methods you've learned, so you can go confidently. I want you to go through your hell, even through your tears, but with a smile on your face, knowing that on the other side is the free life you want to live.

Without pain, without fear. At home and safe in your body, your car, and the world around you. 

I can't wait to see you live! To hold your baby in your arms. Laughing with joy. Glowing with health and happiness.

I can't wait to see the video your partner takes of you driving in the car, singing your favourite song and screaming. I can't wait to see all the amazing places you get to go!  I look forward to you showing the world the future we can create together. 

You can be truly free where you feel safe.

I'm Nóra Árvai, clinical health psychologist, science communication specialist, medical futurologist PhD student, lifestyle doctor. I am passionate about lifelong learning, continuous development, never-ending curiosity and sharing my knowledge and experience with those who need it. 

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